I’m throwing several articles into one post: People has quotes from Kate Middleton to children during her visit to Stewards Academy on Friday; Daily Mail has a story from Richard Kay about the Middletons, and the Queen indulging Prince William; and Express has a story about Princess Eugenie and her boyfriend Jack Brooksbank staying at Balmoral this weekend as guests of the Queen.
People has a follow up story about Prince William and Kate Middleton‘s visit to Stewards Academy for Heads Together. People has quotes from students who said Kate told them encouraging words.
15 year old Hannah, who battled nerves to give a speech in front of the royals and the assembled students, said:
“The princess said to me that I should always keep performing and I should never give up on my dreams. That is going to stay with me for the rest of my life. I think the fact that they came here is going to help a lot of people be able to speak up about how they’re feeling.”
12 year old Klaudia, who also made a speech at the assembly, said:
“It was amazing meeting [the royals]. They said to keep doing what we’re doing and not give up and not listen to what other people say.” Their visit will help “a lot of people open their eyes to the fact that if you do feel worried and scared it’s not unusual, and it’s okay to talk about. They said it’s important because one day their children are going to school. They thought it’s important for them, so it should be important to everyone.”
William made comments during the parents group discussion about raising children:
“Referring to George, he said, ‘Sometimes I look at him and think, ‘You are three years old – how do you know that?’ The sleepless nights and all that is just fine. It’s all the other stuff we now have to start worrying about!’
“The royal dad also addressed the various issues faced by modern children. ‘My eyes have been opened up about how many layers of pressure there are on children at a young age today,’ he said. ‘When we were growing up we didn’t have social media, mobile phones, a lot of TV programs – those kinds of social pressures – plus they have exams, plus they have the expectation to do well, plus they are friends to make. It’s a lot of layers. You can see young people buckle. There’s a lot there. And it is only going to get harder.'”
Kate apparently made comments during the group discussion, too:
“Princess Kate added, ‘It’s all about standing up there and being super-confident, being super sociable… what’s fantastic about the school network here is that it is giving them that support, giving them that resilience. We have spoken before about how there are so many manuals about how to bring babies up, how to bring toddlers up. But when they get to this age, this stage of development, there are different challenges and there isn’t much out there in terms of tools – there is no handbook.'”
You know what I think is very helpful advice that I don’t think is said often enough: It’s okay to fail. We learn a lot through failure, and trying so hard to be perfect the first time is very debilitating. Fear of failure can prevent one from progressing one’s life. If one gives oneself room to fail, one ends up doing better in the long run.
Anyway, like I said in my post on this visit, I hope this visit helped some people. If meeting the royals helped these kids, then more power to the kids.
I could nitpick the comments to Hannah and Klaudia, but they were just generic words of encouragement. “Not listen[ing] to what other people say” seems to be William and Kate’s Life Motto in a bad way, but here it’s a generic piece of well-intentioned advice.
“They thought it’s important for them, so it should be important to everyone” is irking me, but there are things I think should be important to everyone as well. The problem comes when people disagree about which topics should be important to everyone.
“It’s all about standing up there and being super-confident, being super sociable… “ I’d really love to know what the “it” is in that sentence and what People cut out with the ellipses. What was Kate talking about? Because if “it’s” about “being super-confident, being super sociable” I think Kate needs some help with that, too.
A lot of the talk from William, Kate, the kids, and Heads Together around this visit and other visits has been about kids opening up about their feelings, parents talking to their kids about their feelings, and kids feeling anxious or sad, but what about kids who don’t trust or are angry at life or their parents? What advice do William, Kate, and Heads Together have for those kids? I’d really like them to address that at their next mental health-related engagement.
I’d also like William, Kate, and Heads Together to discuss other mental disorders. I realize that they are going mostly for the preventative thing, but it seems like they are focusing mostly on depression-related mental health problems – saying it’s okay to feel anxious or sad, talking about building resilience, and focusing on suicide prevention. But there are so many more mental disorders than just depression. If they really wanted to “end the stigma around mental health” then they should focus on more than just depression-related mental health problems.
Richard Kay penned a new article for the Daily Mail about the social rise of Carole Middleton as a follow up to Carole being invited to stay at Balmoral last weekend. The article is mostly stuff we’ve read before, but there were some interesting quotes.
Basically, the article says the Queen inviting the Middletons to Balmoral and then driving Carole around the estate was a significant gesture and HM’s attempt at making a point – that she approves of the Middletons. Then the article says:
“Intriguingly, Carole and Michael were invited to stay at Balmoral castle rather than one of the other houses on the estate which is often the case when the Queen is in residence.
“‘This was William’s idea. He very much wanted his grandmother to make them especially welcome,’ I am told. ‘They were at the top of a very long guest list.’
“So many guests were invited last weekend that some had to be based at Craigowan Lodge, a seven-bedroom property a mile from the castle. Not only did they sleep there, those guests also had dinner there.
“‘It’s always very relaxed at Craigowan where the Queen’s land agent — or factor as he is called in Scotland — is in charge of entertaining,’ says an insider. ‘It is typical of William to invite lots of friends when he stays with the Queen. He gets a bit out of his depth because of all the other people that are around wherever the Queen is, such as ladies in waiting and equerries. So he likes to have his own friends there. This happened at Ascot in the summer, when he was allowed to invite a group of his and Kate’s friends so they had their own table for meals. It’s a sort of indulgence, they wanted William there but he comes on his own terms.'”
You can read the rest of the Daily Mail article here.
The article ends with some shade being thrown at Carole: “Among some friends in Berkshire, it is said that while she has kept her feet on the ground, Carole has quietly dropped a number of her older acquaintances. ‘Since the wedding there has been a slight adjustment in the order of things, if you like,’ says one figure. ‘Nothing spoken but there’s just this feeling that they know they sit near the top of the social pyramid these days.'”
The interesting bits, to me, are: 1) “[William] gets a bit out of his depth” when she stays with the Queen; 2) “[William] comes on his own terms”.
1) Hasn’t William been staying with the Queen periodically for his entire life? I realize William doesn’t live the same way so it may be a bit odd, but he’s experienced staying with the Queen enough throughout his life that he shouldn’t be “out of his depth” when staying with her.
2) Why do they give William so much power!?!?! The Queen and Charles outrank him, they also out generation him, they also hold the purse strings… why do they indulge him so much and give him so much leniency?? Does he have a terminal illness that we don’t know about so they give him everything he wants because he only has a couple months to live? Is he blackmailing them by threatening to leave the family or expose their dark secrets? Or are the Queen and Charles that weak that they let him walk all over them? I don’t get it.
In a follow up to the Express story from August about their upcoming engagement, the Express has photos of Princess Eugenie and her boyfriend Jack Brooksbank arriving in Scotland this past Thursday. They are staying as guests of the Queen at Balmoral this weekend – while Prince Harry hosted hosting a shooting party there to celebrate his 32nd birthday. Theresa May is also a guest this weekend.
The Express has quotes from sources who claim Eugenie and Jack are there to ask for HM’s permission to marry (although Eugenie doesn’t need HM’s formal permission to marry).
“An insider at the Castle said last night: ‘You could call this weekend a rite of passage for Jack. There is no way he would be invited to stay with the Queen unless he was being welcomed into the royal fold and the bosom of the family. Jack has met the Queen before but these few days will enable her to get to know him much better and see what he is like as a prospective member of the family. Eugenie doesn’t have to ask the Queen for permission to marry but she obviously wants her to be happy with her choice of husband. These relaxed weekends are the ideal way to break the ice. Prince Harry is very close to Eugenie and of course will be her neighbour at Kensington Palace. He is hosting the shooting weekend and making sure that everyone is having a great time. Harry is the perfect guy to make Jack feel at home and not too nervous in the presence of the Queen.’
“A friend of 29-year-old Jack added: ‘You could say he was somewhat apprehensive about going to Balmoral. But Jack has no side to him and will just be himself. He’s the sort of chap who doesn’t have any enemies and I’m sure he will make a good impression.'”
You can read the rest of the Express article here. It ends with an insider throwing shade at Princess Beatrice‘s now-ex boyfriend Dave Clark: “[Dave] was never invited to Balmoral for a weekend like this in 10 years. And that speaks volumes.”
That “Harry… will be [Eugenie’s] neighbour at Kensington Palace” line is in reference to another story to come out of August that claimed Eugenie will be moving into Ivy Cottage on the grounds at Kensington Palace.
I still don’t have much commentary on this other than cool, I hope Eugenie is happy.